Since April Fools’ day is right around the corner, I want to express my thoughts on a popular “joke” that is carried out on Facebook.
|No, I am not expecting- this is just for blogging purposes|
“OMG, you’re pregnant– How exciting!”
Add another 40 congratulatory comments and 100’s of “Likes”
“HAHAHA.. Just Kiddin’! April Fools’!”
I have been planning to write this post for months now; it’s been rewritten about five times. I don’t want to come off “mean” but at the same time, I want to make sure my point is taken seriously. Hopefully this doesn’t come off too harsh, but I need to get it out, especially for my dear friends <3
This so-called joke is not “funny” nor is it “o.k.“. I hope people who may consider doing this think twice after reading this post or for the people who have done this in the past, I hope you learn something new.
Now, I want you to think about eight of your closest couple friends (bf/gf, hubby/wife.)
Out of those eight, one couple will suffer from infertility. This could be your best friend, sister-in-law, sister, cousin, co-worker, neighbor…
According to the National Infertility Association, “Infertility affects 7.3 million people in the U.S. This figure represents 12% of women of childbearing age, or 1 in 8 couples.”
What is infertility? Infertility is defined as the inability to conceive after one year of unprotected intercourse (six months if the woman is over age 35) or the inability to carry a pregnancy to live birth.
Chances are you actually know someone who is unable to become pregnant or carry a baby full term.
Here are some more statistics for you:
-Approximately 44% of women with infertility have sought medical assistance. Of those who seek medical intervention, approximately 65% give birth.
-Approximately 85-90% of infertility cases are treated with drug therapy or surgical procedures. Fewer than 3% need advanced reproductive technologies like in vitro fertilization (IVF).
-For women in their childbearing years, the chances of having a miscarriage can range from 10-25%, and in most healthy women the average is about a 15-20% chance.
I have to admit, when I was pregnant I knew very little about infertility and really didn’t think anything of it. I didn’t think I knew anyone who suffered from it.
I.Was.Wrong. So, very wrong.
I know at least ten couples who had trouble becoming pregnant, lost a baby, or are currently experiencing challenges conceiving.
I have friends whom have miscarried, gone through procedures such as having their tubes “cleansed” (which I hear is extremely painful), and taken medication and/or injections to help regulate their ovulation cycle. A dear friend of mine is spending THOUSANDS of dollars to undergo in vitro fertilization.
Do you think my friends find this “joke” funny when all they want to do is welcome a child into this world? I highly doubt it.
Again, one out of eight women suffer from either, not being able to become pregnant or cannot carry a baby full term. Approximately one out of six women will miscarry during their pregnancy.
Please, please, please consider these numbers before saying, “you’re pregnant” just to get a laugh– especially on Facebook.
You have no idea how much this can hurt someone.
For every 50 of your female FB friends, 8 of them will experience infertility issues.
On April 1st, I will post this PSA as my status on both my personal FB page and on the Born to Wear Diamonds FB Page.
“PSA: I know it is funny to announce you are pregnant on April Fools’ Day, but take a minute and think about how it may affect someone who is suffering from infertility or the loss of a baby. Thank you.”
Statistics were taken from:
The National Infertility Association website
American Pregnancy Association Website